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Book Review: 12 Ways Your Phone is Changing You


This book . . . it is fantastic. Let me give you three reasons why you should read it, if you haven’t already.

First, this book is highly educational. It is apparent that Reinke did a tremendous amount of research about our phones, how we interact with them, how we use them as tools, and even how they can potentially ruleĀ us, if we’re not careful. Everything he included is eye-opening and helpful, but not all of it leaves you feeling safe. I knew in my heart that phones, and our constant access to information, had the potential to be dangerous, but I’d only ever waded into the water of those thoughts. Reinke took me all the way in, neck deep, and helped me to see just how my phone has been shaping my life. It would do the same for you.

Second, this book is convicting–the sort of convicting that makes you literally wince as your eyes pass over the pages. This is not to say that Reinke is condescending or judgmental; rather the opposite, he is the first to reveal the unpleasant phone habits he has picked up along the way. But he points out tendencies of smartphone use that can be clearly connected to changes in our relationships with people or, even worse, our relationship with God. You will appreciate the way 12 Ways Your Phone is Changing You will, well, change you. The table of contents gives you a taste of the topics:


Third–and this might seem a little nerdy–the book was deliberately written with a chiastic structure. (Chapter 1 relates to 12, 2 relates to 11, 3 to 10, and so on.) On the surface, this might not seem like a reason to pick up a book. But there is something satisfying about a book beginning and ending in the same place. It gives a sense that the journey is complete. You have come full circle. And that is precisely how one feels upon finishing 12 Ways.

That, and perhaps ready to throw her phone in the Ohio River (or at least turn it off for a while).

You can find 12 Ways Your Phone is Changing You on Amazon or Christian Books. You can learn more about Tony Reinke on his website, https://tonyreinke.com/.


I received a complimentary copy of this e-book from Crossway.


Resolved [2016 Edition]


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Here we are again. The calendar has marched on to the start of a new year. 2015 was immensely busy for us; so much so that it really feels like we just celebrated the end of 2014. Like water under a bridge, the days slid past us. I’m acutely aware that, even as I type this, the moments of this infant year are meandering under that bridge. We’ll blink, and it will be time yet again for costumes and turkey and snowmen and presents and noisemakers and another post about another new year.

Deep breath.

I suppose this is also a time for making resolutions, though I approach doing so with trepidation. My natural tendency is to dive headlong into things with an over-zealous “can do” attitude — then fizzle out about mid-February. I must combat this, or I’ll ever feel like a failure. (Anyone else struggle with accepting grace in failure? I suspect I’m not alone in this one.) In my thirties, I’ve established (what I feel is) a helpful way to evaluate the year past and resolve to make small adjustments in the coming months. There are two big steps to this process, though the second step is composed of quite a few smaller steps.

  1. Select a word for the year. Often this is rooted in a Scripture and is tied to something about which the Spirit has convicted me.
  2. Evaluate what I see as my four main areas for growth: spiritual, physical, intellectual/emotional, and relational. Did I find success in meeting my goals for the ending year? How do I need to tweak these? Or do I need to set entirely new goals? My “word of the year” factors into most of these sectors, to varying degrees.

Typically, I begin this process around Christmas Day. There is much reflection, reading of Scripture, and praying that happens. The goal, of course, is to set goals that grow me in ways that ultimately glorify the Lord. For 2016, the Lord has drawn my attention to Matthew 22:36-40:

“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And the second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.”

My word for 2016: LOVE

During the second half of 2015, I struggled to love — in part, due to challenging emotional circumstances that have surfaced, but mostly because I was a ping-pong ball in the way I sought the Lord. My self-discipline in most things turned drastically downward. I’m taking this fresh year as an opportunity to reset my course, thankful that the Lord drew my attention to my folly and helped to give clarity regarding these new, continued, or tweaked structures for a new year.

Resolved: 2016

daily reading time using a chronological Bible reading plan
daily prayer and journaling time
extended time with the Lord on Saturday
heart-care regarding the aforementioned emotional challenge*

daily rotation of at-home, body weight exercises
strict adherence to a diet that excludes grain, dairy, and sugar**
strict consistency in all treatments

Intellectual / Emotional
create and complete 2016 reading list
complete first draft of novel

limit screen time and remove Facebook from phone
write an encouraging note to a specific person (weekly; not by text)
pray more actively for those in my spheres of contact

*The time spent receiving heart-care will undoubtedly affect my well-being and growth in all four of these areas — an my ability to love those around me.

**If you’re looking for paleo meal and snack ideas, visit my Pinterest board that is dedicated mostly to that end.

I don’t feign that these resolutions will be the answer to all of my self-discipline problems, but I firmly believe that the answer to that issue lies in seeking the Lord more diligently. It has been my experience that being disciplined in that one regard produces the fruit of additional discipline in other areas of life. I also believe that each of these resolutions (yes, even the first draft one!) will grow me in loving my neighbor as myself (and create opportunities for that love to be lived out).

Stay tuned for my 2016 reading list! I had to scale it back a bit from 2015, but I’ve been more intentional in what I chose for the year. Meanwhile, I would LOVE to hear about your resolutions for 2016! How do you want to grow in the coming year?

Soli Deo gloria,