This book, True Feelings, is reaching bookstore shelves at precisely the right moment. It is accessible and encouraging in its language. It is a fast read. And, most importantly, it is written in a season of our society when emotions are often given free reign on social media. Sometimes, what I hope to be a simple and quick scroll through my news feed leaves me reeling, as though I’ve been in the middle of a yelling match (in which I wasn’t participating).
Christian, it is the right time to talk about emotions.
Mahaney and Whitacre set forth the following question: If one attends a church that teaches soundly from Scripture, how is it that the person fails to progress in the Christian life? They also posit this answer: We do not have a biblical understanding of emotions or, therefore, the capacity to handle them biblically. Subsequently, the authors spend the duration of the book helping readers understand three things:
1) Where our emotions come from,
2) the purpose for our emotions, and
3) how we can, by God’s grace, change them (and how we handle them) over time.
I believe this book starts in the right spot—why we have emotions in the first place. Many times, the authors reference our cultural proclivity to suppress emotions and our assumption that any strong emotion is bad. But “emotions are from God, for the glory of God” (p. 56). Our job is to consider how He would have us to feel about things, and we learn that by steeping our minds and hearts in the Word.
I particularly appreciate the chapter dedicated to the long-game of changing what we feel by changing what we believe and value, by setting these things next to Scripture and seeing if they align. (If not, we ask the Lord to change our hearts.) The authors address the concept of feeling the right emotion, at the right time, with the right intensity. They quote Mark Talbot, who states that emotions should be “proportioned to the right value of their objects.” If I’m losing my mind over a traffic jam, it’s probably time to step back and evaluate why I am reacting the way I am. A bit of time is given to discuss how our physiological condition impacts our emotions, but I appreciate that Mahaney and Whitacre don’t allow for challenging circumstances to be an excuse for sin. They are clear that our job is to feel things and respond to them with behavior that is God-glorifying.
Some of my other favorite chapters were devoted to equipping the reader with tools for battling out-of-control emotions in the moment, plus daily disciplines to cultivate deeper self-control. This includes Scripture intake, prayer, replacing bad habits (e.g., dwelling on failures) with godly ones (e.g., meditating on truths about God or a Scripture that combats a particular lie you believe), and recognizing God’s good gifts to us.
Overall, True Feelings covers all the bases and leaves the reader understanding her own heart-processes a little better. This would make a great book club read, because it is ripe with discussion topics. Hopefully Crossway will produce a discussion or study guide PDF to accompany True Feelings. I’ll keep an eye out for it!
True Feelings releases October 31, and can be pre-ordered now!
Soli Deo gloria,
*I received a complimentary ARC of this book from the publisher.
As a pastor’s wife, I always have one eye open for devotional books that are easily accessible, theologically sound, and deeply encouraging to people fighting the battle that is the Christian life. I found such a one in this book by Michael Branch.
“True Stories” is a delightfully convicting treasury of devotionals, which draw on the author’s life experiences and the truths about God that he finds in them. I think this is Branch’s elegance as an author: He sees through the messiness of life, fixes his eyes on Jesus, and magnifies the Savior by masterfully preparing a banquet of words for the rest of us to feast on.
The book is structured as such: Each narrative is preceded by a Scripture verse. After using a surprisingly small number of words (for the conviction wrought) to point the reader to Jesus, the author then offers a small word of challenge or encouragement for the day, along with a brief statement that reveals a pertinent facet of the gospel. Each story is quick—I took my time and rarely spent more than two or three minutes on one. I think this makes “True Stories” an excellent accompaniment to one’s quiet time—or a great book to keep on hand for down time throughout the day.
In particular, I was most spiritually challenged by the sections entitled “True Freedom” and “Hurting, Hoping, Heaven”. These sections stayed with me the longest, perhaps due to their vulnerable nature and my own experience with suffering. They forced me to linger on the hard questions they ask. When you buy this book, anticipate being moved by these accounts.
If you are in the market for a solid, joyful, Gospel-centered devotional to enliven your daily walk with the Lord, this is the one.
Being an extremely decisive person, it is uncommon for me to go very long without forming an opinion about something–particularly a book. It bothers me loads when this happens. I realized today that, sometimes, worldviews are slightly varied such that I can’t fully reject what an author is saying, but I also can’t agree with everything the book says. That’s where I’ve landed with Still Waiting by Ann Swindell.
I googled Ann to learn a little more about her; she seems like a fabulous gal! I believe that she loves the Lord and His Word. I believe she wants to apply it to her life in the most honest way possible. She has struggled for decades with trichotillomania, which is “a mental disorder that involves recurrent, irresistible urges to pull out hair from your scalp, eyebrows or other areas of your body, despite trying to stop.” (Mayo Clinic). I can completely understand why she would seek deliverance from this issue, though the reasons are likely different from why I would seek to be rid, once and for all, of Lyme disease. Both circumstances offer their own set of life challenges.
But, out of the gate, I think we are coming from two different angles.
While I suspect the author would agree that God is the great (and only) Heart-Changer, the majority of the book focuses on her desire for two things: relief from the desire to pull (behavioral change) and physical healing. She mentions very early in the book that anxiety was the onset cause of her trichotillomania. Anxiety . . . a heart issue, not a physical issue. (One could argue that a predisposition to anxiety is genetic, which could be true; but I would counter by wondering, if one predisposed to anxiety were removed from the environment containing the pre-exisiting anxiety, would he still struggle with anxiety? Is it nature or nurture that brings anxiety bubbling to the surface?)
I waited and waited for the chapter that told about the author’s experience in repenting of this anxiety (with which she continues to struggle) and finding freedom to live within the freedom that comes from that (even if she still pulled). But it never came.
Please don’t read that I am judging her heart; that’s not my place. I don’t know her and can’t know what she is thinking and feeling, aside from what I just read. She probably has asked the Lord to relieve her anxiety. But since that one chapter (an important one, in my mind) is missing from this book, I can’t fathom giving it to someone who struggles with anxiety and has claimed it as her identity (e.g., “I just have an anxious personality.”). I wouldn’t feel right having someone come away from a book without being encouraged to address the root of the issue. In my experience, when I am anxious it is because I have stopped trusting the Lord for some reason or another. There is no permanent, medical solution for anxiety; but there is a God who is able and trustworthy, and Who commands us not to be anxious.
25 “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? 27 And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?[g] 28 And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, 29 yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31 Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. 34 “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. (Matthew 6)
Again, I think we’re just coming at this topic from different perspectives. With that issue out of the way, I can say that I did find valuable truths in these pages. It certainly encouraged my heart many times, with regard to waiting. (We’re doing a bunch of waiting these days!) I just can’t get super excited about this book.
So . . . I’m not willing to throw the baby out with the bathwater, but I recommend reading it less as a self-help book (that’s not what it is), but with an eye for the truths about God that will encourage the soul.
Soli Deo gloria,